exhausted momma...

We are coming out of the cloud of our 1st phase of adoption. The haze of early fundraising, the phase of heavy paper work, the phase chasing around town to get medical exams, passports, finger prints, background checks, and psych evals. This last few months I don't know that I have ever been so exhausted. Every minute I have something to do, or should be doing. Either I'm at preschool, running kiddos somewhere, household chores, and then in my few minutes of non committed time I'm chasing paperwork around. But it is paying off, we are on the edge of finishing it up. Adoption is fUll of unexpected. That is what I've been told from the begining. and they weren't lieing. Here's an example. We needed local background checks. I was told to go the local city police department. So off I went. My little duckies following behind me. We were sent to 3 different offices. Then finally told they "no longer do those here". Back to the mini we traveled. I texted my AMAZING caseworker and she got right on it. After calling she discovered the police department no longer did them. So we were sent to the Rutherford county jail. While waiting for my background report a whole line of men from the jail came out, orange jump suits and all. and you know what my boys did, they high five them. The whole line of fugitives. Oh me. all I could do was laugh, I hope their day was brightened. When I went to get fingerprinted, my babe's played peek a boo with a man in an office who was obviously busy but sweet enough to entertain them so I could finish the task at hand. When I needed to have a drug screen I wasn't allowed to take the kiddos into the bathroom with me, so a nurse stood with them and played to keep them calm and entertained. The countless times I've visited the post office I have been greeted by the same kind women-always quick to ask me about our adoption and even quicker to remind me God is in control and that she is praying. While getting my passport we waited over 2 hours, the kids were a wreck but when we got in the office she made them smile and laugh and gave them crayons and paper for distractions. You see adoption can be lonely. So very isolating. Your friends are pregnang. They are feeling and knoWing and growing their child, and our child is far away, and we don't know her, or even if she is born yet. Yet we are fightiNg for her. Fighting to finance her homecoming, and by the grace of God and kindness of people we are. We are fighting the nay sayers, those who think we are crazy. Those who think we have "enough" kids. Those who think we are selfish to adopt. We are fighting the busyness of our schedules to finish paperwork. Appointments. And deadlines. Losing sleep as we stay up late to do trainings. And we don't even know her yet. But oh how we love her. We crave to know her, crave to touch her, kiss her and call her ours. God is growing us through this. Every time the devil beats us down the holy spirit moves and God's presence is seen again. I don't really know the ppint of this post, I guess it comes from exhaustion ☺

happy 2nd birthday Fischer jonathan

Fischer, You my sweet baby are 2! Your 2 years of life have flown by but at the same time oh how I have savored you. I have held you every time you awoke at nighg. I have sat and cuddled you and ignored chores simply because you asked. You are truly our baby. We have never had a 2 year old and not already added on anot her sibling so it's safe to safe you are spoiled ☺ You are very talkative. you have spoken in full sentences for several months and you love to chat. You make everyone laugh bc you talk so much. You have the best grin. The best laugh. Your happiness is contagious. You are an amazing cuddle bug. You always want to sit on our laps, cuddle us, suck your thumb and rub our arms-always. You brother gave you one of his blanket and it has become a huge attachment for you. It is so sweet seeing you sucking your thumb and holding your blankie. You love jumping on the trampoline and will jump until you are red faced and puffing. You love to swing and giggle the whole time! You love to ride the 4 Wheeler with rei and he is so patient letting you on and off at your whim. You and Reiter both love trucks and tractors and "drive" them around everywhere Making truck noises. You both take at least 1 to bed every night! I taught preschool Tuesday and Thursdays this year so you attended school. You did so well and love talking about your friends, especially tinsley. You love music and chapel and are so cute walking on your rope with friends. But momma missed you to much this year. So next year you and I will be back home, I just want to continue savoring these toddler days with you! Fischer we pray you come to know our God who "wuvs" you and "made me and you and everything". Because as much as I love you God loves you infinitley more! We pray you are a man of integrity. We pray you always see the weaker person aND make it a priority to care for them. We pray you are a gentlemaN. We pray you have a heart for your family. We pray you know how proud we are of you and how much we love You. You keep telling us your "13", that will be here soon enough I'm sure. For tonight happy 2nd birthday my chubby, sweet, loving baby boy!

happy 7th birthday my love

Averi noe'l This week you turned 7. I really don't know how that happened. 7 seems like a big big kid. 7 seems very grown up,and in my momma heart there will always be a part of me that thinks of you as my baby! From the day you were born and I held you and kissed you and fell in love with every little feature on your face I prayed for Jesus to steAL your heart. I see the holy spirit stirring questions in you and some times I feel inadequate to newer them, but God is gracious and gives me the response you need. I pray you lays seek answers to your questions, and that you are always able to trust us to help you! I pray you come to know jesus, and that he uses you in bigger ways then we can imagine! This year you have lost 4 teeth! I loved your toothless grin when you first lost the top 2! You have thrived in 1st grade. You love to read and finished your first chapter book on your own! You love math and received the math award for your class this semester! you also adore puzzles, you can do a 100 piece puzzle in less then an hour on your own. You love to have your own notebooks and pens or markers or pencils. You write us letters and notes all the time that say things like "I love you because your my mom" or "you're a great dad because your my dad"...they are always so sweet and make us feel very special! You have just entered the tablet world and I'm sure if dad and I didn't closely monitor it you would play on it for several hours, most school days you don't get a chance to play it tho and your time is very limited on the weekend. you look so grown up when you are playing on it! We took a girls weekend to Atlanta and you were able to pick out your 1st American girl, you have never been a huge baby doll player like your sister, but this Julie doll has become your faborite! You take her everywhere and are always dressing it! Our trip to American girl was such a fun and special mother-daughters time and I'm so thankful we were given that opportunity! You love your friends, especially our neighbors Chloe and Laila as well as your school friends you love to talk about! I love coming to lunch with you or help in your classroom and seeing you interact with them! Your best friend is your sister. You hardly fight but are instead best friends. You play together well and giggle almost nightly until you fall asleep. Sofia loves to sleep in your bed with yoy, and even when I can tell you want some space you let her and that blesses my heart! We miss you while you are at school but are so very proud of how well you have done there! You are playing soccer again and sister you are rocking it this season. You have finally gotten a streak of aggressiveNess and seeing you hustle thrills me! You seem so confident on the field, such a change from the 4 year old we had to bribe to kick the ball! you are also in gymnastics and I'm so proud of how hard you work there. You and Sofia have lots of friends in your class and I love watching you talk and enjoy them while you pracTice! my favorite thing we have done this year is American Heritage Girls! Its a Christian centered scout troop and I have had the joy of being one of your leaders! We have had 2 lock ins and several events where we have been able to serve together and that has been a such a privilege! Averi I wish I could lock you in at 7. I love everything about you right now. But I say that every year, and I don't want to miss the amazing things I know God has in store for you sweet girl! Know you are unconditionally loved baby girl. You are so precious. It is a true honor to call you daughter and I feel blessed every time you call me momma! Here's to 7!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Harper's "other mom"

When we pray at night with our kids before bed we pray for Harper. They utter sweet prayers like "keep harper safe", "bring Harper Home soon", "help Harper like it here", "I hope Harper is having fun in Haiti if she is born", every time I hear them pray for her it wedges her farther into our hearts and etches this sweet spot into our family portrait that is awaiting her arrival. Lately my sweet tender hearted girl has been praying for Harper's "other mom"... Her prayer tonight was "keep Harper safe in her 'other' mommy's belly if she isn't born and if she is make her mommy happy without her". First I felt a sting. I'm Harper's mom, her real mom, her meant to be mom-not her 'other' mom.But i also know in another world their is a women or will be a women who will carry our daughter. Who despite her circumstances is choosing or has chosen life for our daughter. And she is Harper's real mom too. First I know adoption isn't meant to be. If sin wasn't in the world all children would be in perfect families with love but we live in a fallen world. As a result there are babies and children everywhere who need homes and love and care. Every believer is called to orphan care. Every believer is called to support orphans until there are no more. Some like us are called to parent one. Others are called to give and advocate on the orphans behalf. And all are called to pray! So, since adoption is. Since orphans are. Since God has called us to Harper. The 'other' mom is. I think of her a lot. If she is pregnant, feeling our daughter move, knowing her from the start. She is facing the hardest choice any women can imagine She is choosing what happens to her daughter. Our daughter. And that is a burden that breaks my heart for her. I want her to know how very thankful we are for her choice to give her daughter life. When harper is born and she makes the choice to let her go I want so badly for God to give her a peace that she is going to a family who Will love her. Love her in good moments and bad. Love her when she is sick and well. Love her when she is throwing fits or laughing hysterically. Love her as she grows and becomes a women. That we will comfort her and pray for her always. I just want her to have so much more peace then I can imagine having in her shoes. Please join me in praying for her. Please join me in preparing my heart to mother harper in the way she needs. AS well as praying for me as I mourn not being there for Harper's birth and probably her 1st and even 2nd birthday, my momma heart wants to be there for these milestones. But I know God is writing Harper a beautiful story, and I'm thankful to be a part.

back?

Back to blogging? I hope so. I want to be. I honestly don't know what has kept me from blogging this last nearly year. Was I to busy? Maybe. Was I to tired? Sure. Was I overwhelmed? Sometimes. Well, I don't know, I can't give you clear answer. I sat down several times and considered what I would write here, and words escaped me. You see this last year has been busy, yes, has been exhausting and certainly overwhelming at times. But more then that I've literally been standing in awe of what God is doing I our home and family and when I have wanted to put that on paper (or the blog) I fear my words can't justify all he has done. So I pray you'll hear my heart. This last year our babies have grown. Averi turns 7 in few weeks. Sofia starts kindergarten in the fall. Reiter is 3 and living it up 2 days a week at preschool. And our sweet baby Fischer is nearly 2 (insert loud momma sobs)... kevin is working hard as always, serving in celebrate recovery at church and as a deacon As well as Co leading our wonderful small group. I took on teaching 2 days a week at preschool which has been such a joy to me. I've learned so much from the women who I have had the joy to teach beside, specifically my Co teacher Tammy. She is such a lover of Jesus, her husband, her family and her preschool kiddos- I pray I can put so much of her lifestyle into practice into my day to day, she is an encourage and a confidant and I knew day 1 I didn't want to just be her Co teacher I wanted to be her friend and I am so very thankful God granted me that desire of my heart. After a ton of prayer and agonizing I knew God was telling me no to returning next year as a teacher. AS much joy as I feel at preschool I feel like God just wants me home savoring this little window before my boys go to school as well as preparing us for our biggest transition yet... because as most of you know... we are adopting! So here is where the nitty gritty hits. I want my heart to be heard as I talk about our adoption. So please hear don't just read. We have 4 young children. And when Fischer was born we knew we were done (unless Gof miraculously intervened) having biological children, and potentially our family was complete. We brought Fischer home from the hospital and our home was bursting at the seams with chaotic joy. But in that joy God placed a void in my heart. A burning passion. A desire for orphans. I knew our finances. I knew our exhaustion, I knew what I thought were our limits. And I told God maybe later, maybe when our kids got older maybe we could just give to someone else to help them adopt. But God kept bringing me back. I couldn't pray or read the bible or be in church service without the statistics of orphans playing on my head. Without the image of children without families weighing down my heart. So kevin and I talked. He saw my heart, bless him. But it took him a while to work it out. He is our provider, so the finances of adoption and the care of 5 kids weighs heavy on him. He prayed. He prayed a lot. When I asked him his thoughts he simply told me to let him pray. I had to be quiet, when I wanted a yes and enthusiasm I told God. And after about a year God united our hearts, because that's the beauty of Christmas in marriage- he wants you united, he wants you like minded, and if you wait on him he will bring you to the same conclusions. So we prayed, God if this is what you want make your way clear to us. Provide our application fee in a miraculous way that we can't deny is from you. And he did. Heven sent a sweet old man in sams club who didn't know us. Who didn't know we were talking about adoption. But God stirred in his heart to pursue us. So here I was in sams with all my babe's just before christmas. our Christmas gifts were bought. Our kids well provided for. I know there was others who needed this $ more then we did. And here comes this sweet man, in a gray coat with matching cap. He says "you have lovely kids" I say "oh thank you!" And he says "I want you all to have a merry Christmas and hands me a wad of cash. By the time I looked at the money and looked up he was to far away to hear me protest keeping it. Then I counted it. It was exactly our application fee. God knew we needed that tangible sign of where and what he was calling us to. So we said yes. It took time. We explored options. We finally landed on haiti. We are pursuing a daughter. Her name will be harper. God is writing her story. She will come home and we will forever be indebted to all who loved us and helped us bring her home. I will try to share more of our journey. Of all God is doing to bring her to us. He is working and I am humbled to be a part of his plan. #bringingharperhome